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Graduation SZN: 3 Things To Know About Post-Grad Life

First, congratulations to the graduating class of 2017, you did it, you did it!

Still waiting on my Hogwarts invitation…I’m 27 now…

College is a BIG DEAL. Not to rain on anyone’s parade but pretty soon you’re going to get a rude awakening, a wake-up call from this thing called life a.k.a adulting.

YOU HAVE NO EXPERIENCE! So, you’re going to have to learn how to sizzle. What I mean is, embrace the process and be patient with yourself. Create a hit list of dream jobs and go get ’em!

Attaining a college degree and consistently showing up to class for participation points was only the beginning of the battle. Now, you’re going to have to work hard for your money! Since you’re not going to have 5-7 yrs experience, you’ll soon realize MOST if not ALL, jobs you apply to (or want to apply to) either want 3-5 years experience or 7-10 years, so unless you’ve been working since childbirth, you don’t have that extensive of a career life span, yet; so you know what that means? YOU GUESSED IT:

You’re going to have to grind it out and hustle! Here are a few things you should know about what to expect post-grad and just to remember in general:

1.STAY HUNGRY, STAY HUMBLE!
You’re going to have to show employers you’re hungry to learn and eager for more food by showing them WHY you deserve a seat at that table. What do I mean? What I mean is this; you’ve done the academic part, you’ve secured a degree that allows you to pull up a chair to the table, but it doesn’t necessarily show employers why they should hire you or why they should feed you*!


Often times, employers seek out fresh talents with interesting perspectives, although they’re willing to take a chance on you, you’re going to have to consistently work you’re a** off to show, you’re not just some know-it-all, entitled “millennial;” you’re actually a hard worker. Since you don’t have any experience you’re going to get stuck doing ALOT of the work NOBODY wants to do, you’re going to feel like you’re on an endless road of paying your dues and questioning all of your life choices. You may have to take a job where you’re barely making $40,000 a year. It’s not going to be fun or even glamorous no matter who you end of working for. Just giving you the trill spill; You’re very “green”, a.k.a beginner status a.k.a super entry level. Be prepared to suck up your pride just to build some clout on your resumé. After about a year or two in, you’ll see your supervisor and colleagues will begin to take you more seriously which shows them, you’re consistent, humble and always hungry. You’ll always have a place mat and food at the table.

2. SHOW UP AND SHOW OUT.
Unless you have unlimited PTO (which some people do have) you’re going to have to show up EVERYDAY. At least, if you’re willing to do your best and stand out from the rest to be that rockstar employee. When undergrads ask me, do I miss college, or what’s one thing I miss about the experience…you know what I tell them? I get it REAL! I tell them the truth!

Just like I’m telling you NOW, if I was sick, or stayed out too late the night before class, or just didn’t want to go because I’d rather hang out with my friends in class, I COULD! That’s what college teaches us, showing up is 80% of success. If you skip class, you can take a nap or go do your own thing. Unfortunately, in the real world, life doesn’t work like that. You’re not striving for As or Bs, you’re praying you’ve got enough money in the bank to pay your bills and maybe treat yourself to some Chiptole. Stay ready, so you don’t have to get ready! You’re going to want to not get up at 6 a.m. or 7 a.m. or 8 a.m., you’re going to hit the snooze button ALOT of times and dread your morning commutes. But as SOON as you begin your day, be prepared to always do your best.

3.DON’T PLAY YOURSELF! Get as much experience as possible. Possibilities are ENDLESS.
Contrary to popular belief, you absolutely do not have to restrict your awesomeness by only applying to jobs within your field. The first step in applying for most jobs is that fact, that you, in fact, have a piece of paper on it that says you’ve secured your degree. You have a bachelor of whatever and that’s the first key to getting in the door.  Just promise me, you won’t get comfortable or get lazy. You have to remember to remain challenged if you’re bored as for more work. You never want to feel stagnant in your career because one day you’ll wake up wondering why you never chased your dreams and look at yourself, like congratulations, you played yourself!

Apply to any and every job you THINK you may be interested in. In college, we have this crazy vision that we have our entire lives mapped out and know exactly what we’re going to be doing, perhaps some of us do. But if you’re like me, life doesn’t go according to plan and you’re going to have to roll with the punches.

My very first boss after graduating from college told me this, What you’re doing today, isn’t what you’re going to be doing in 5 or 10 years. Heck, you might not even be doing this in 1-2 years from now.

I didn’t understand what he meant back then. It was so hard to find a job where I could see myself that I was putting so much pressure on myself to make the right decision in where I would work next. But here’s the sad truth, as a new graduate you CAN’T afford to be picky unless you’re some golden child and you CAN’T afford to skip out on something that could be an amazing opportunity. Don’t pressure yourself out of your blessings, follow your intuition and chase your dreams!

YOUNG T-BABY BLACK GRAD. #SJSU. 2014.

The Art of Approaching a Man

Guest Blogger, Kimberly Gedeon of The Melody Of Melanin gives us The Art of Approaching a Man, read more to find out how to secure your BAE!

The very thought of approaching a man sends a spine-tingling chill down many women’s backs.

WOMAN UP!

“What if he rejects me?” 

“It’s so unladylike!”

“What if he isn’t receptive to me taking the lead?”

These are all valid concerns if you ask me. Rejection is a cruel blow to the ego and it’s often uncomfortable to step outside of our pretty-in-pink feminine shell. But what if I told you that you can be “the approacher” and manipulate the situation so that he’s still “the hunter”?

If you visualize the “approach” as some alpha female pushing herself up against a guy and demanding his number …

You’d be very wrong! There’s a sort of … finesse required, a little “seduction” and “craftiness,” if you will.

That’s why I call it, “The Art of Approaching a Man.”

Step One: Identify Your Target’s Social Setting

Before you do ANYTHING, you’ve got to figure out who this man is rollin’ with. Is he with a woman? Is he alone? Is he with a group?

If he is with a woman or a group of women, ABORT, ABORT! Yes, it’s true they may just be friends, but you don’t know for sure – best to be safe than sorry.

If he’s in a group – perhaps dilly dallying around town with his dude friends – it’s not the most ideal setting, but still feasible to get him in the palm of your hands.

And if he’s alone, perfect!

So if you’re man is rollin’ solo or grouped up with the guys, you’re good to go to the next step.

Step Two: Scan Your Surroundings

This is very important. How you approach your target will be contingent on your surroundings – you will be using it to your advantage.

For example, if he’s at a bar with friends, is there an empty stool next to him just begging for you sit on it?

Is he alone at a café, staring through the sneeze guard, wondering which tasty treat he should get with his latté?

Keep an eye out for these environmental cues – they are important because they’ll tell you how to approach your target.

For example, you can cozy up to that stool and pretend you’re getting yourself a drink:

Thirsty?

And you can shuffle up next to him and pose as if you’re having a hard time choosing a dessert as well:

Potential Bae Alert

See where I’m going with this? You need to visually scope your surroundings so that you know where to “place yourself” before you approach him.

Step Three: Wait for the Right Timing

You know what time it is!

Now that you’ve already mapped out the environment, as they always say, there’s a time and place for everything.

Choosing the right time is particularly crucial if your target is part of a group. You definitely don’t want to go for the kill when he’s in an intense, passionate conversation with one of his buddies. Trust me. He doesn’t want anyone tapping his shoulders while he’s trying to get his point across.

And if he’s at a bar watching a game – no. Okay? No! All he’s going to be thinking is how much he doesn’t want a pest like you in his life to interrupt his football Sundays.

Other times you do NOT want to approach your target:

  1. He seems as if he’s in a rush
  2. He’s talking on the phone
  3. While he’s doing something weird that he wouldn’t want others to catch him doing (picking his nose, adjusting himself)
  4. He’s making a beeline for the bathroom
  5. He’s on his way out
  6. He’s listening to music with his headphones on
  7. He’s reading a book

The RIGHT time to approach your target:

  1. Conversation dies down (if your target is with a group)
  2. He’s all settled down, enjoying his coffee at the cafe
  3. He’s just sort of hanging out, twiddling his thumbs
  4. He’s fidgeting with his phone, not doing much with it
  5. He’s standing in line for something
  6. He’s waiting for something – a flight at the airport or the bus at the bus stop

Step Four: The Approach

Here’s the fun part! Now that the timing’s right, what are you waiting for? Go for it!

The first thing you want to do is place yourself near him as for how you mapped it out in STEP TWO. But you do not initiate a conversation right away. You do your thing – mind your own business – long enough for your target to assume that you’re only around him for your own purposes. This will disarm his defenses: “Oh okay, false alarm. She’s not here to bug me.”

Keep to yourself: Order a drink for yourself at the bar as you sit next to him on the stool, text someone as you sit beside him on the park bench, pretend you’re having trouble deciding on dessert like he is.

Now on a recent trip to Turks and Caicos, I scored a super sexy island man (OMG so hot!) I followed all the previous steps: I surveyed the area, found out he was alone with his sexy self and saw that he was sitting at the slot machines.

Are You All In?

There’s an empty seat! It’s all or nothing, baby. I sat right next to him.

Take a risk and have a seat sis!

I fumbled around with the slot machines and pretended to have trouble using it all while keeping to myself. And that brings me to the next step – strike up a conversation that taps into men’s “HERO instinct.”

Step Four: Strike Up a Convo That Makes Him Feel Like Superman

Deep down inside, men want to fly around with capes and save the world. So if there’s any way that you can tap into that “hero instinct,” even if it gives him a lightning-fast feeling of being heroic, you’ll stimulate a spark of attraction within him.

So after fumbling around with the slot machine for a minute or two, I said, “Um, do you know how to use this thing? Help!” I lightly kicked the machine in a cute, joking way.

I got a question

And there he goes, going out of his way to help me use the slot machine. I could just see it in his eyes that, deep down inside, he’s puffing his chest up and revealing an “S” on his chest.

You can use the same tactic, for example, if you’re beside him trying to figure out which dessert to eat with your coffee: “Oh man! This is so stressful! I don’t know if I should get the blueberry muffin or the apple pie. What do you think?”

Most men would love to swoop in, save you the trouble, and help you choose your dessert. Or if you’re sitting at the bar, you should ask, “I want to try something different. I’m such a bore and I always get rum and coke. Tell me what’s your usual and I’ll just get that.”

Remember ladies – hero instinct!

Step Five: Allow the Target to Become the Hunter.

At this point, it’s time to hand the reigns over to the man and allow him to take the lead. You approached him, you broke the ice, and now you’re just going with the flow.

If he’s interested in you, you will see that he’ll try his best to upkeep the conversation – even if he isn’t the best conversationalist.

With my island guy, after he “saved me” at the slot machine, our conversation morphed into a deeper discussion – what he’s looking for in a woman, why he’s cheated in the past, and why he’s single. I could tell he was interested because he showed no signs of wanting to end the conversation. He was engrossed.

Once your target is engrossed in the conversation, he has become the hunter. Men love it when women approach them because it allows them to know, “Okay, this girl is interested. There’s no chance of rejection at this point.”

But they also want to feel as if they made a move towards you, let ‘em have that moment!

Step Six: The Big Finish!

By step five, if the conversation is winding down and your target still has not asked you for your number or social media page, it’s time to take charge again – but ever so subtlety.

You should say, “We should keep in touch.” Here you can offer to swap whatever contact information floats your boat – your Instagram, Facebook, phone number, etc.

Success! You got the digits, secure your bae!

And that, my friends, is the art of approaching a man! Now if you want to learn how to keep one, you’re on your own because I’m still trying to figure that one out for myself.

Toodles!

Kimberly Gedeon is a content creator with nearly 2,000 professional articles published online including platforms like BuzzFeed and MadameNoire. You can DM her on Instagram at Kimmiexsweetie and she’ll happily respond. She doesn’t bite!

Ambitious Girl Series #1

For all of you that know, Ambitious Girl World’s mission is to empower Ambitious Girls everywhere to live their best lives. You may have noticed that the site has gotten a new makeover! Courtesy of Brittany Melton, a fellow Ambitious Girl, and a Web Design Extraordinaire! I found Brittany in the twitter streets after she was tweeting dope design tips. One reason I love following Brittany besides her design knowledge is her, Today’s lessons tweets. Her tweets seem to pop up in a timely manner on my feed, indirectly inspiring me to never give up in chasing my dreams. Brittany has done a phenomenal job working on my site and designed my first logo for Ambitious Girl World, adding fuel to the fire in finally taking serious steps in the greatness of what Ambitious Girl World can be. Naturally, I wanted to shed the spotlight her as well as introduce the first installment of, #AmbitiousGirlSeries.

#AmbitiousGirlSeries with Brittany

What’s your name and where are you from?

Brittany from Alabama

What do you do? As in, what’s your day job? And what’s your passion project?

I’m a web and logo designer during the day, artist, and gamer at night. I’m hoping to be an artist and a character designer full-time someday.

What does ambition look like to you?

Ambition looks like making the impossible happen! You can make the impossible, possible with just one to-do list at a time…even when you don’t “feel” like it. Ambition isn’t the title or swagger we have on the outside, it’s for those times when life gets hard and you have to make the dreams happen.

What are your dreams and what steps are you taking to achieve them?

I want to be an artist and character designer. I’m slowly but surely taking painting and illustration classes, building a community around my art, and trying to create a new piece each day.

Life Mantra: Everything you need is already manifesting.

What advice would you give to your 8-year-old self?

You’re a great artist, even if someone else gets recognition for your hard work and you don’t. Keep drawing.

Words of wisdom for other ambitious girls like you?

Take a large dream goal and break it into smaller steps. You may not be able to do your dream job full-time now, but maybe you can spend this year gaining a useful skill related to that dream.

You can find Brittany online as a designer: twitter+instagram (@xobritdear) and xobritdear.com.

What I appreciate about Brittany’s work ethic is not just her willingness to offer quality customer service but her patience in helping explain the process to you. Brittany is very creative and accommodating. She knows her stuff and is happy to answer any questions you may have. This was my first time hiring a designer for my site, and it has definitely set the bar with anyone else I do business with in the future. She isn’t just a designer; she goes the extra mile by also acting as a design connoisseur with a willingness to provide explanations and expertise regarding web design. I’m extremely pleased with how things turned out and I hope to do business with Brittany again in the future!

What are you waiting for? Check out Brittany now!

#AmbitiousGirlSeries will be an on-going series devoted to dope women doing their thang and chasing their dreams and ambitions no matter how hard life gets. I think it’s important to start the conversation that we all deserve the life we want to live. We don’t have to give up on our dreams or ourselves. Seeing other women carrying out their goals should be a motivator that you can do it too! There’s enough space for us all to live out our dreams and continue to chase these checks. There’s true power in words and thoughts, so let’s start to hold each other accountable and actively work towards the lives we want to live. You just have to believe in yourself, find hope in your situation and imagine the possibilities. Anything is possible, you have what it takes and deserve whatever you want in this lifetime.

Interested in having the spotlight shine on you? Drop me a tweet or email and introduce yourself!

GLOW UP SZN: Why I Made a Vision Board

I made a vision board a couple years ago when Essence published an article with Slyvia High: 2015 Is Mine: How to Make the Most Out of Your Year With A Vision Board. Since then, I moved and my vision board ended up inside my closet for years until I eventually threw it out. After reflecting on my life in the last few years, to where I’ve been and where I’m headed and what I want…I made a new vision board in January 2017.  Inside the article, there are a few questions offering a refreshing activity to help shape your perspective when creating your vision boards. You can see my vision board my updated answers below.

vision board-January 2017

ANSWER YOUR CALLING
After making your vision board, be prepared to bring it to life. As the founder of Aiming High, Inc., Sylvia High has coached thousands to live in their purpose by asking themselves the hard questions. I also downloaded Sylvia’s book as a free download on kindle via Amazon:  “We upgrade our phones when they are outdated, but we don’t always upgrade our thinking,” says the author of The Little Book of Big Questions.

1. What is my vision for my life?
2. Am I ready to live my dreams?
3. Who do I need to be to achieve my dreams? High says, “New dreams will require you to let go of your old habits.”
4. What are the recurring patterns in my life?
5. What’s working and not working in my life?
6. What will I do differently?
7. What am I afraid of?
8. How much of my past is shaping the way I think and what I do?
9. What do I need to let go of to get what I want?
10. Am I willing to take responsibility for everything that happens in my life?

****My previous answers are from 2015, I have updated some but for the most part, my vision hasn’t changed.****

What is my vision for my life?
I see myself living in New York (although I’ve never been) At least living bi-coastal…Working in public relations or digital media at a network like VH1 or BET or Warner Bros or HBO,  while being a columnist for a magazine on the side and an author. Or being the VP of a PR firm or having my own consulting firm, I want all this by 35.  I want to have a beach house or a house in Lake Tahoe, I want to live comfortably, and happily, I want to invest. I want it all but not necessarily, that’s just how I see myself, I want to encourage and inspire others with my story. Update: I’ll be visiting NY for the first time this June, I’m going to properly assess and determine if I can see myself living there and as of now am actively developing a plan to move by July 2018. I would love to write for Essence or Teen Vogue one day. Since 2015 I’ve become a contributing writer, check out my work here.

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Am I ready to live my dreams?

YES. Update, HELL YES. TURNING CANT’S INTO PLANS & DREAMS INTO PLANS!

Who do I need to be to achieve my dreams? High says, “New dreams will require you to let go of your old habits.” I need to be better, I need to stop being lazy. I need to stay hungry. I need to show up & show out, EVERY SINGLE DAY. I need to pay better attention to detail, overachieve…I might need to relocate, be bolder, and put myself out there. I might need to get an MBA in business…(I do want an MBA in business)—Update: Still, however, I remain undecided on the MBA and in 2016 I was caught up in a relationship, 2017 is about getting back to me and finally making all my dreams a reality by stepping off into the unknown and experimenting through my journey of self-discovery.

What are the recurring patterns in my life? Waiting until I’m “comfortable” to shine, be myself…then getting TOO comfortable. BUT remaining ambitions, the last few years I’ve been pushing myself outside comfort zones (barely but pushing) making baby steps in what I feel is the right direction. Update: I was lying to myself here, I can do better, I’m doing it now, I’m done blocking my blessings and playing games. It’s GO TIME.

What’s working and not working in my life?
I don’t open up to people…in love, and I  think I do good maintaining relationships, professionally speaking but I should try harder, network more, again. BE BOLD. I have a positive outlook and I think that helps to shape my resilience. Update: In 2015 I, in fact, pushed myself into the dating scene and secured a relationship only to waste my own time and not make any real movement through my career or on my blog, so I’m making up for lost time right now!

What will I do differently? TRY HARDER, Check/edit things twice and check again, TAKE MY TIME, and overall try to be more open and receptive in all aspects of life and all possibilities of love, I have a bad habit of shutting down in all areas when I feel discouraged I’m my own worst critic, I’ll root for myself more often. Update: Sometimes, I still don’t feel worthy or deserving of my own accomplishments, but I’m acting giving myself more credit. I’m going to hold myself accountability, time manage and prioritize my goals. I’ve also started finding my voice and being more open. It feels good.

What am I afraid of?
Failure. Failing in my career and failing in love, to wake up one day and realize everything I ever wanted never happened, to realize I never loved again, to recognize no one ever saw the potential in me that I see in myself. Failure and ending up alone are my biggest fears.  Update: This has changed, if I don’t fail or make mistakes I won’t learn. I learn about myself more every day. Now, I see my fear is stagnancy. Staying stuck and not going for it! Instead of talking or fantasizing about my dreams and not ACTUALLY DOING ANYTHING, I’m going to FINALLY do it. Less talking, more ACTION. Like Nike, JUST DO IT.

How much of my past is shaping the way I think and what I do?
At least  80% if not more, my past experiences have instilled fear of reverting backward, ultimately shaping my work ethic, but everything is one sided. I’m ONLY focused on my career, what is love? I don’t know. I don’t care to know. I want my career and dreams to come first. I think it’s both good a bad. Good because in life & in love, I promised myself to never make the same mistakes twice, those lessons are learned. Bad becomes I’m less fearless, more cautious, insecure…constantly second guessing if I’m good enough, both career and in life. Update: 2017, I am acknowledging a lot of my trauma and healing myself, reading more, understanding my feelings and challenging myself to stop playing the victim and outgrow my old self and it’s working.

What do I need to let go of to get what I want? This, is a hard question, after all, we’re creatures of habit…I guess… that’s it just LET GO. Let go of any fears & trust my gut, trust God and trust the universe, trust that if I trust MYSELF to make IT HAPPEN…it will, as long as I try my best, promise myself to try my best to be better than yesterday (my 2015 resolution,) trust myself to just live life, my life, and accept everything that comes my way. Update: I need to get out of my way. I talk myself out of a lot of things, but I deserve the life I want, so I’m here to take what’s already mine. I really need to let go of never feeling good enough or the right time, the time is now.


Am I willing to take responsibility for everything that happens in my life? YES.
Update: I now understand that “signs” and aligning with my highest good means actively working on reevaluating and evolving. I look at my new vision board made this past January and notice the strong emphasis on inner strength, healing, and aspirations. I’ve also found Tracy G, she has a podcast called Beauty & the Beast with audio vision boards, my favorite is Bloomsville. I’m actually holding myself accountable and taking responsibility for my life, and my dreams and of my healing.Moving forward, I have the power, I’m in charge and I’m ready for my blessings.

Have you ever made a vision board? Drop a comment below and let me know how you’re chasing your dreams!

So I Quit: What’s Next? Finding Hope in Uncertainty

It’s the first of the month:

Time to set new intentions and chase these coins!

The beginning of a new month, May, doesn’t just come with timely bills but it comes with a promise. This month comes with new blessings, new days, and new opportunities to get things right.

ICYMI: I quit my job roughly two weeks ago. Here’s what’s been going on since April 14:

I made peace with my past and my present. My last day at my job was full of goodbyes, I moved back in with my mom and when she asked me how I felt I busted out in tears. It was an emotional release because everything I set out to do, that seemed so impossible in 2010, I accomplished. So now what?

Not sure if you guys know this or not, but this is the second time I moved back home. When I was 18 fresh out of high school I set my eyes and heart’s desire on moving to San Francisco. Young & dumb, at the brink of the 2008 recession, a year and student loans later; I couldn’t afford to live there anymore. Despite the fact that I had a job and exhausted my resources, my mom also lost her job and I had to sacrifice my own desires to move back home, to help her out. We’re a team after all and it just wasn’t the right time, it wasn’t my time.

I spent the remainder of 2009 dedicated to realigning, creating a plan of attack and decided that if I was going to live at home I would go to community college and see if I’d get into a college later. From 2010 to 2017, I chased my academic goals and career dreams. Who knew 7 years would go by so fast? I transferred from a community college with three associate degrees, to San Jose State in 2012, and in two short years graduated with a Bachelor of Science degree in Public Relations with an academic focus in Radio-TV-Film, all by the age 24 having already secured a job upon graduation. Naturally, I stuck to my guns over the last three years in San Jose, navigating through the corporate structures as I worked at different companies and figuring out what I wanted to do, or who I wanted to be. 7 years later, I find myself back at home, in a similar situation, wondering to myself what’s next?

I ask myself: How do I feel? What have I learned? Where do I want to go from here? It was a self-audit. I find myself still learning who I am.

These first two weeks back at home were an emotional rollercoaster except instead of going through motions fast and intense, the days dragged. I was exhausted and I needed rest. I slept a lot. I was emotionally drained but felt guilty for taking such a much-needed break. Since 2010 I didn’t rest, I chased my goals, I was disciplined academically working nonstop, taking winter session classes and summer internships to ensure I would graduate from a State University in 2 years and start my life. I couldn’t waste any more time, I thought.

Now, after having the time to be still, to be alone, to sit with me, it felt foreign. I couldn’t remember the last time I had a moment to just breathe like this.

I am powerful and I am capable, and it’s okay to DECOMPRESS. I noticed that my moods would go up and down; I began questioning if I made the right choice or if something was wrong with me and I felt guilty. I’m not sure exactly why I felt what I did, but what I’ve realized is, what I’m doing today, won’t be what I’m doing in 10 years from now unless I want it to be. Meaning, I am powerful and in charge of my life. Who do I want to be and what do I want to be known for? I ask myself at least twice a day. With that in mind, I’ve learned 3 important guidelines to help me redirect my path:

Finding Hope in Uncertainty
I am a worrywart and a stressor; to the point, I will make myself sick. I’ve been trying to reprogram myself.  With this opportunity to be still, I found time to change my thoughts and practice clarity through meditation. I’ve mentioned before that the guided meditations from Oprah & Deepak’s 21-day experience help immensely. The last 21 day’s theme was finding hope in uncertainty. A major theme of my life currently (shout outs to the universe for the alignment.) Through clarity, I’ve learned that I am a beacon of hope, that I find hope in every situation and that I can help others be more hopeful as well by spreading love, light, and positivity.

If you get tired, it’s okay to rest, just don’t quit. Don’t give up.

You see, I can’t freak out because I don’t know what’s next. There’s beauty in not knowing what’s next or not having everything completely figured out all the time. I can reinvent myself by taking this plunge into hopeful uncertainty. This is exactly what my soul needs, the best opportunity to redefine myself, reprogram and realign with my heart’s desires.

Acknowledging My Worth and My Desires
I’ve had some interviews, I have some leads, but I’m not willing to settle for just any check just for some coins. *Kanye shrug* What I know for sure is this; I only want to live with my mom for a year or 1.5 years, not any longer. I plan on working as much as possible and saving and paying down debt to financially be in a better situation, as I set up towards future success. BUT that doesn’t mean I want to just take ANY job. I want to be content and secure with my decision in where I work next. I know that what’s for me, will never miss me. I’m exactly where I need to be and the rest will fall into place. I’m not worried about finding a job or about the money, of course, I need the coins but I’m trusting that I made the right decision and moving forward no matter what happens next, I’m going to own it!

Finding Hope in Uncertainty

Chasing my Dreams
We all know, I have dreams, and I hope you do too. This world has a way of making us feel crazy or alienated and misunderstood for not wanting to give up on the lives we know we deserve. I had more free time being home and felt guilty because I wasn’t using my free time to write, or blog or even develop a plan. So now that my resting period is over, I’m energized. Last week I submitted two articles to Her Agenda, which I encourage all ambitious women to join as it’s a great network of smart like-minded women who collectively come together to encourage one another and create opportunities. I want to write more. I want to inspire more. I want to blog more. I want to create the life I want. Whatever that looks like, we’ll just have to find out together, won’t we?