GLOW UP SZN: Why I Made a Vision Board

I made a vision board a couple years ago when Essence published an article with Slyvia High: 2015 Is Mine: How to Make the Most Out of Your Year With A Vision Board. Since then, I moved and my vision board ended up inside my closet for years until I eventually threw it out. After reflecting on my life in the last few years, to where I’ve been and where I’m headed and what I want…I made a new vision board in January 2017.  Inside the article, there are a few questions offering a refreshing activity to help shape your perspective when creating your vision boards. You can see my vision board my updated answers below.

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After making your vision board, be prepared to bring it to life. As the founder of Aiming High, Inc., Sylvia High has coached thousands to live in their purpose by asking themselves the hard questions. I also downloaded Sylvia’s book as a free download on kindle via Amazon:  “We upgrade our phones when they are outdated, but we don’t always upgrade our thinking,” says the author of The Little Book of Big Questions.

1. What is my vision for my life?
2. Am I ready to live my dreams?
3. Who do I need to be to achieve my dreams? High says, “New dreams will require you to let go of your old habits.”
4. What are the recurring patterns in my life?
5. What’s working and not working in my life?
6. What will I do differently?
7. What am I afraid of?
8. How much of my past is shaping the way I think and what I do?
9. What do I need to let go of to get what I want?
10. Am I willing to take responsibility for everything that happens in my life?

****My previous answers are from 2015, I have updated some but for the most part, my vision hasn’t changed.****

What is my vision for my life?
I see myself living in New York (although I’ve never been) At least living bi-coastal…Working in public relations or digital media at a network like VH1 or BET or Warner Bros or HBO,  while being a columnist for a magazine on the side and an author. Or being the VP of a PR firm or having my own consulting firm, I want all this by 35.  I want to have a beach house or a house in Lake Tahoe, I want to live comfortably, and happily, I want to invest. I want it all but not necessarily, that’s just how I see myself, I want to encourage and inspire others with my story. Update: I’ll be visiting NY for the first time this June, I’m going to properly assess and determine if I can see myself living there and as of now am actively developing a plan to move by July 2018. I would love to write for Essence or Teen Vogue one day. Since 2015 I’ve become a contributing writer, check out my work here.

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Am I ready to live my dreams?


Who do I need to be to achieve my dreams? High says, “New dreams will require you to let go of your old habits.” I need to be better, I need to stop being lazy. I need to stay hungry. I need to show up & show out, EVERY SINGLE DAY. I need to pay better attention to detail, overachieve…I might need to relocate, be bolder, and put myself out there. I might need to get an MBA in business…(I do want an MBA in business)—Update: Still, however, I remain undecided on the MBA and in 2016 I was caught up in a relationship, 2017 is about getting back to me and finally making all my dreams a reality by stepping off into the unknown and experimenting through my journey of self-discovery.

What are the recurring patterns in my life? Waiting until I’m “comfortable” to shine, be myself…then getting TOO comfortable. BUT remaining ambitions, the last few years I’ve been pushing myself outside comfort zones (barely but pushing) making baby steps in what I feel is the right direction. Update: I was lying to myself here, I can do better, I’m doing it now, I’m done blocking my blessings and playing games. It’s GO TIME.

What’s working and not working in my life?
I don’t open up to people…in love, and I  think I do good maintaining relationships, professionally speaking but I should try harder, network more, again. BE BOLD. I have a positive outlook and I think that helps to shape my resilience. Update: In 2015 I, in fact, pushed myself into the dating scene and secured a relationship only to waste my own time and not make any real movement through my career or on my blog, so I’m making up for lost time right now!

What will I do differently? TRY HARDER, Check/edit things twice and check again, TAKE MY TIME, and overall try to be more open and receptive in all aspects of life and all possibilities of love, I have a bad habit of shutting down in all areas when I feel discouraged I’m my own worst critic, I’ll root for myself more often. Update: Sometimes, I still don’t feel worthy or deserving of my own accomplishments, but I’m acting giving myself more credit. I’m going to hold myself accountability, time manage and prioritize my goals. I’ve also started finding my voice and being more open. It feels good.

What am I afraid of?
Failure. Failing in my career and failing in love, to wake up one day and realize everything I ever wanted never happened, to realize I never loved again, to recognize no one ever saw the potential in me that I see in myself. Failure and ending up alone are my biggest fears.  Update: This has changed, if I don’t fail or make mistakes I won’t learn. I learn about myself more every day. Now, I see my fear is stagnancy. Staying stuck and not going for it! Instead of talking or fantasizing about my dreams and not ACTUALLY DOING ANYTHING, I’m going to FINALLY do it. Less talking, more ACTION. Like Nike, JUST DO IT.

How much of my past is shaping the way I think and what I do?
At least  80% if not more, my past experiences have instilled fear of reverting backward, ultimately shaping my work ethic, but everything is one sided. I’m ONLY focused on my career, what is love? I don’t know. I don’t care to know. I want my career and dreams to come first. I think it’s both good a bad. Good because in life & in love, I promised myself to never make the same mistakes twice, those lessons are learned. Bad becomes I’m less fearless, more cautious, insecure…constantly second guessing if I’m good enough, both career and in life. Update: 2017, I am acknowledging a lot of my trauma and healing myself, reading more, understanding my feelings and challenging myself to stop playing the victim and outgrow my old self and it’s working.

What do I need to let go of to get what I want? This, is a hard question, after all, we’re creatures of habit…I guess… that’s it just LET GO. Let go of any fears & trust my gut, trust God and trust the universe, trust that if I trust MYSELF to make IT HAPPEN…it will, as long as I try my best, promise myself to try my best to be better than yesterday (my 2015 resolution,) trust myself to just live life, my life, and accept everything that comes my way. Update: I need to get out of my way. I talk myself out of a lot of things, but I deserve the life I want, so I’m here to take what’s already mine. I really need to let go of never feeling good enough or the right time, the time is now.

Am I willing to take responsibility for everything that happens in my life? YES.
Update: I now understand that “signs” and aligning with my highest good means actively working on reevaluating and evolving. I look at my new vision board made this past January and notice the strong emphasis on inner strength, healing, and aspirations. I’ve also found Tracy G, she has a podcast called Beauty & the Beast with audio vision boards, my favorite is Bloomsville. I’m actually holding myself accountable and taking responsibility for my life, and my dreams and of my healing.Moving forward, I have the power, I’m in charge and I’m ready for my blessings.

Have you ever made a vision board? Drop a comment below and let me know how you’re chasing your dreams!